Yes, they can be I say!
When we are limiting someone from his/her personal growth for what "we think it's good for him/her" is really disempowering the person from their real potential and limitations.
Perfect examples are over protective or over controlling parents of their children. Most grow up not knowing who they really are and what their real strengths and limitations are!
A person living life to his/her untrue purpose in life is as good as living as a robot driven by a master controller!
Are you empowering your child?
Are you disempowering your child?
How can you guide your child to realizing his/her true being, potential and limitations?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved
- Mood:
curious
Most of us were programmed from a very young age that there is a specific mould we need to fit into - to be successful, respected, happy and so forth. Little that we know; with each of those little "unauthentic" imprints imprinted into our "mind map"; we lose our identity that's authentic to us from the day we were formed and brought to life.
As we go through the different stages of our lives; we either build or destroy our authentic identity! Parents play a big role in nurturing their child's "mind map" followed by other "programmers" the child interact with. How we as parents encourage the authenticity of our child will determine if our child would be traumatised with an "identity crisis" or not.
Parents as the adults who "should know better and everything" which is the popular belief of society are in fact most of the time ignorant or clueless of their indirect influence.
Every reaction and action both parents "play" in front of their child is information for the child to process and has an indirect influence on programming and imprinting a specific information or "code" in the child's "mind map"!
If there was much "authentic" love and warmth between the parents - the loving code is programmed.
If there was much "authentic" hardship and complaints - the hardship and nagging code are programmed and so forth.
My question is....
How aware are parents and the "other programmers" of his/her influence? Probably an arguable number! Many of us are unconsciously ignorant!
In the stages where infants are preparing their journey in life on earth, everything is a mystery and everything is TRUTH! They question with PURE CURIOSITY and a PURE MIND. Their minds are super expandable until one imprint after another takes refuge in their minds becoming the ultimate truth until proven otherwise by future experiences.
By the time our minds are cluttered with "unauthentic truths"; we start losing pieces of our authenticity. This in turn leads to confusion and depression. We hit an identity crisis! What now?!
Without the right tools, most people would just spiral down into the deep dungeon of LOST land with no free pass to return.
Just like in computer systems; when a programmer writes a code for a system - if everything was coded correctly; everything functions. When a programmer makes a "mis-programming" somewhere or when a programmer writes a bad code - everything is corrupted. Once identified where the bad code is; rectified - the system regains its functionality.
Our "mind map" works the same way. It can easily be corrupted with just a few "bad codes" that would impair our authentic functionality in life.
Our "mind map" CAN be reprogrammed to regain our authenticity. Life is mysterious and your authentic soul within that accompanied you to this life will never stop nudging you when you are off your authentic route. It will nudge you to find that "bad code" within you and force you to "re-write" the code to put you back to your authentic path for this life.
When our authentic path is in line; PEACE within evolves; darkness turns to LIGHT; confusion turns to CLARITY; emptiness turns to CONTENTMENT; sadness turns to HAPPINESS; discouragement turns to EMPOWERMENT and hatred turns to ACCEPTANCE, FORGIVENESS and LOVE.
ARE you LIVING with AUTHENTIC you?
What's your "mind map" like?
How has your "mind map" tainted the AUTHENTIC YOU?
What are you doing about that?
Parents - How are you "programming" your child?
What's your "mind map" like?
How has your "mind map" tainted the AUTHENTIC YOU?
What are you doing about that?
Parents - How are you "programming" your child?
Are you aware of what have you imprinted unconsciously?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved
- Mood:
awake
"Saying is NOTHING when ACTION SAYS NOTHING!"
"Coming from truth - Only AUTHENTIC change can happen and last."
"There are many faces to a truth and there are many ways for sharing the same truth."
"Sometimes the BEST thing you CAN ever DO for yourself is to just simply LET GO!"
"Perspective is a CHOICE not a rule! Perspectives are what will empower or disempower a person, a community, a nation and the world!"
"Beautiful experiences UPLIFT the soul!"
"Creativity is not encouraged when our minds have no room for playing around."
"Time does not change. Only 24 hours and ONLY 24 hours. Tasks do change - can become more/less - it's how we manage them that makes a difference in the quality of the outcome to the tasks, our life balance - mind, body and spirit."
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved
- Mood:
accomplished
Positive Awareness CREATES ACTION
Positive Awareness ALLOWS CHANGE TO HAPPEN
Positive Awareness CREATES HARMONY and BALANCE
Positive Awareness ALLOWS more POSITIVE ENERGY to FLOW
Positive Awareness CREATES HEALTHY LIVING
Are you holding Positive Perspectives about yourself, a situation or someone in spite of your shortcomings, someone's flaws and the negative experiences?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood:
refreshed
What she has shared in that seminar was so relevant to networking practices. Her wisdom shared - the experiences and strategies were powerful tools to carry with us as networkers.
I've networked quite a bit in my lifetime as well and some of the incidents that Ronnie had shared did hit home like dejavu. People network for many reasons and for their own personal reasons which may very well be VERY different from our perspectives.
I personally do stress on making connection. To me that is much richer and fulfilling than a "surface/fake" connection! And really we don't have to pressure ourselves in trying to make everyone love us! They don't need to! It's their right and so is our rights not liking them for whatever reasons that may not be resonating with who we really are and represent! Respecting one's differences is a jewel not a curse.
Networking can be really tricky and disempowering for some without the right mindset and tools to tackle the experiences you're going to face! Communication and Interpersonal skills - important tools to have in this globalized interaction that we do today. And the ability to SHIFT PERSPECTIVES fluidly like the river flowing through, over, under and along every obstacle it hits.
BE clear of your intentions for networking! Don't expect everyone to HAVE TO buy into what you are giving/sharing! Enjoy the experience of KNOWING and LEARNING from each moment of the experiences when you NETWORK! Networking can be fun when you let it be FUN and enjoyable! It's just a matter of shifting one's perspectives as each moment passes by. :)
What are your REAL intentions for networking?
Why do you network?
What is your Networking Style?
Does it compliment and resonate with who you are and what you represent?
Do you network to CONNECT or DISCONNECT?
How rich are your connections?
How sincere or insincere are your connections?
Why do you network?
What is your Networking Style?
Does it compliment and resonate with who you are and what you represent?
Do you network to CONNECT or DISCONNECT?
How rich are your connections?
How sincere or insincere are your connections?
- Mood:
contemplative
Different cultures and upbringing bring about different behaviours and different styles of communication. They also influence how one may perceive the other when interacting. Some are more vocal, others are more reserved, some are more authentic and others are less. Some choose to connect more and others may choose to keep a certain distance or stay somewhat disconnected.
Adaptation is one key to communication harmony but it can also be said that adaptation can also be a killer of communication harmony - communication within oneself and with others. When we communicate authentically of who we really are for WE ARE; the soul is energized. When we don't communicate authentically; the soul's energy is weakened and thus puts a toll on our well-being.
How authentic are we when we communicate with another being?
Are we truly trying to connect with another soul or are we just putting on a front to be polite?
Do you want to be energized or weakened soulfully?
Are we truly trying to connect with another soul or are we just putting on a front to be polite?
Do you want to be energized or weakened soulfully?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: awake
"PERSPECTIVES are so important in our daily lives in determining the outcome of every moment in our lives."
"PERSPECTIVES are so important in our daily lives in determining the outcome of every moment in our lives."
"Never lose your AUTHENTIC SELF!"
"Find your AUTHENTIC self; Don't lose your authentic self that EMPOWERS you to your higher PURPOSE in life!"
"We are capable of LOVING many beings; not just one but many. We just need to tap into the AUTHENTIC LOVE within us to SHARE more love around."
"Embrace Creativity - Let your Creative side grow and shine - Creativity brings an abundance of possibilities to everything you do and experience in life."
"Stress is caused by ourselves in most aspects and in turn affects our body, mind and soul. When we learn to balance that; harmony can take place to live a healthier and less stressed life."
"Choice of actions are affected by our own perspectives of our situations and experiences."
"A union is all about LEARNING about the UNIQUE individual and find HARMONY within TOGETHER."
"Everyone has the right to their perspectives and judgments - It's OUR PERSPECTIVES to that is MOST IMPORTANT!"
"It's easier to BLAME others than OWNING up to OUR own IGNORANCE and ILLUSIONS."
"Empowering PERSPECTIVES creates HARMONY."
"SHIFTING Perspectives and LETTING GO are LIBERATING."
"I accept and embrace every imperfection for they are perfect as they are that will just empower my being when I allow it to do so."
"When you continue to look externally to feel complete but within - internal and external harmony can never be harmonized."
"TRUE AWAKENING begins with an HONEST step."
"Every experience is awareness and wisdom gained."
"Everything starts with that one step then another and another. Every step may come with challenges but they are there to build your "muscles" for greater things to come into your life."
"Slice your overwhelming tasks into smaller pieces for easier 'digestion' to your system and remember to take time to relax with yourself, your love ones, and share the light with every soul you touch - send it out to the Universe."
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood:
amused
"BE COMFORTABLE in your OWN skin
and
BE COMFORTABLE being different from some people..."
and
BE COMFORTABLE being different from some people..."
It is so easy to lose ourselves in this world trying to "FIT IN" to the perspectives of societies, friends, professional counterparts and loved ones be it in our own community, personal and professional relationships to co-exist in this world.
Our IDENTITY - our strenghts and weaknesses are all a part of us. We carry them in us. We have to learn to BE COMFORTABLE in our OWN skin and BE COMFORTABLE being different from others who don't always see eye to eye with us.
When we choose to "Embrace our unique differences and embrace our similarities"; we stand a chance for better harmony within our TRUE SELF. We are able to shine and radiate all around to the people who can sense that greatness in us and attract the same greatness into our lives to build a community that is TRUE to our TRUE IDENTITY!
Who's Skin are you wearing? Mine or your OWN?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh (Positivity Lounge) All rights reserved.
- Mood: amused
"Truth is what you choose to see, believe and accept as reality in your world."
“In every gloom; there is beauty that is awaiting to penetrate through the cloud of gloom.”
"Joy that radiates from the heart is infectious throughout your body, mind and soul and continues to infect everything that you encounter. When you hit this spot; you know the joy is pure as it can be. SPREAD LOVE; SPREAD JOY! INFECT everyone with your PURE JOY!"
"Continue to DETACH from negativities and useless clutters - FEEL the LIGHTNESS as each of the "heaviness" get out of your way!"
"It's OK to be NOT in control all the time and surrender to the moment!"
"You really NEED to KNOW WHO YOU ARE inside to create your UNIQUE IDENTITY that radiates to the world around you! If you're confused inside everything on the outside will be as scattered and unfocused in spite of the 'efforts' you try to put in!"
"Every failure is not a disaster unless you choose to hold that perspective. It is an opportunity to learn and be better! Stretching yourself out too thin is just going to make you vulnerable to the environment! You can snap easily. There's no solid foundation! Gain your mass back! FOCUS on what's most important to you!"
"Avoidance helps keep your reality hidden temporarily but it can never keep it hidden forever. Face your FEAR - the scary monster within you! IT can only have power if you give to it continuously! Who's the BOSS - FEAR or YOU?"
"Quite often the SOLUTION is RIGHT in front of our EYES - SIMPLE - YET we STRUGGLE/FAIL to SEE IT INSTANTLY!"
"BE COMFORTABLE in your OWN skin and BE COMFORTABLE being different from some people..."
"Deaths are good reminders of life to LIVE LIFE while you still have it!"
"Embrace YOUR positivities; KNOW YOUR strengths and LET them SHINE!"
"When we STOP blaming others for our 'negative' decisions made; we START really LIVING our empowered lives."
"Authentic love does not judge but accepts. It does not vanquish self authenticity and unions in life; it empowers your being and unions. It does not diminish or break you and your unions in spite of challenges of nature and humanity that bombard you and your unions with others."
"Educate your future generation to have bigger hearts; not a closed mind and inconsiderate minds."
"Parents - you play a BIG role in imprinting "good/bad perspectives/behavior" in your child! Stop the ignorance and create a better loving community!"
"A GIFT from the heart from one moves the world; GIFTS from the heart from the world moves the Universe."
"PERSPECTIVES are so important in our daily lives in determining the outcome of every moment in our lives."
"Avoidance helps keep your reality hidden temporarily but it can never keep it hidden forever. Face your FEAR - the scary monster within you! IT can only have power if you give to it continuously! Who's the BOSS - FEAR or YOU?"
"Quite often the SOLUTION is RIGHT in front of our EYES - SIMPLE - YET we STRUGGLE/FAIL to SEE IT INSTANTLY!"
"BE COMFORTABLE in your OWN skin and BE COMFORTABLE being different from some people..."
"Deaths are good reminders of life to LIVE LIFE while you still have it!"
"Embrace YOUR positivities; KNOW YOUR strengths and LET them SHINE!"
"When we STOP blaming others for our 'negative' decisions made; we START really LIVING our empowered lives."
"Authentic love does not judge but accepts. It does not vanquish self authenticity and unions in life; it empowers your being and unions. It does not diminish or break you and your unions in spite of challenges of nature and humanity that bombard you and your unions with others."
"Educate your future generation to have bigger hearts; not a closed mind and inconsiderate minds."
"Parents - you play a BIG role in imprinting "good/bad perspectives/behavior" in your child! Stop the ignorance and create a better loving community!"
"A GIFT from the heart from one moves the world; GIFTS from the heart from the world moves the Universe."
"PERSPECTIVES are so important in our daily lives in determining the outcome of every moment in our lives."
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood:
artistic
Finding balance in life can be a challenge for many. It is important to incorporate play and fun into our busy lives. It’s not always DO DO DO just because we “think” we have to or must! It’s all about choices and every action creates an outcome!
We need to listen to our body and soul that tell us our limitations! Never push yourself beyond the limits of those two! Any of those two are ignored; the consequences that follow can be quite costly. Imbalance follows; health is affected and depression may set in for some.
Staying in the moment and really LISTENING to our inner being help to maintain our balance in life. Laugh a lot! Laughter is good for the soul! Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Accept our own ‘imperfections’. Forgive ourselves of the silly mistakes we’ve made. Look from a perspective of learning from every moment. Live with love; die with love.
What are you doing to have balance in YOUR LIFE?
Are you balanced or imbalanced?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood:
cheerful
"Let love and joy flow freely throughout within you to project smiles, joy and love to the world around you."
"Never let that playful child part within you die as you embrace aging for it keeps the light within you alive for more balance in life."
"Common courtesy goes a long way. It may be a small enough thing to be dismissed consciously or unconsciously. The consequences however can have a great impact on how you are perceived and affect your relationships."
"Be open to the unexpected even when in doubt what it's all about - stay with the moment: Moment for moment at present time."
"Smile-smile-SMILE a million smiles circulating to build billions, trillions and zillion smiles around to share to brighten one's day."
"Every wondrous moment has an end - it doesn't last forever the same - it changes with every action, effort and circumstance. Such is life in motion in life."
"Good company (companion) is hard to find; when you do find one - cherish every moment of it while it lasts!"
"Cherish every moment with your dear ones; make every moment of it count and memorable for you to bring to your next life!"
"Make yourself think of happy and funny moments from your past experiences to bring back the smile and glow to your gloomy day."
"LOVE will find its way to your heart when it's meant to happen! LOVE heals; LOVE connects; LOVE builds bridges; LOVE nurtures tranquility."
"The Universe sends good and not so good people/experiences into our lives to remind us to CHERISH and LOVE ourselves more then others!"
"Think Positive; Live Positively; Promote Positivity around you; Share Positivity with the world!"
"Sincere and truthful compliments can encourage one to reflect on himself/herself and do a check list on his/her own beliefs (positive/negative) about himself/herself. We are the hardest judge of ourselves!"
"Don't commit when you're unable to give your full attention to the commitment; respect people's time and effort."
"When you hold on to your dream; you'll have the strength to push yourself through any hurdles that come your way."
"Make your burning desire work for you NOT against you."
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: accomplished
Blaming outwardly lets you relieve yourself from any kind of responsibilities. Taking responsibility by blaming yourself endlessly - punching yourself over and over again leads to a traumatized soul within. We can make ourselves the greatest punching bag and be our meanest punchers but how durable are we? Blaming gives power to the situation to be blown out of proportion. Blaming is a road to powerlessness and despair. Blaming leads to a dead end doom road that disconnects YOU from your TRUE SELF, your ENERGY source - the POWER within you to make things right and work for you that creates positive greatness within radiating outward to build positive bridges to positive relationships with yourself, others and mother nature.
Our perspectives in such incidents are so important in creating the next outcome - within ourselves and outwardly. Every incident that goes wrong lies wisdom within for us to learn about ourselves on a deeper level - connecting with our "SELF" within as well as for us to learn about others involved. Coming from a perspective of learning gives you the POWER to sort things out in your life and in troubled situations with greater clarity and balance to tackle a situation/person. Every action taken is wisdom to our truth within - our limitations, our real needs, our real strength within and our reality in our lives within and externally. It is wisdom about others - their limitations, their real needs, their real strengths within and their realities in their lives within and externally.
Which PERSPECTIVE do you hold when things go wrong?
"Learn" or "Blame"?
Are you MAINTAINING your power within or GIVING AWAY your power?
How hard are you "punching" yourself and others?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved
- Mood:
creative
When you're overpowered by adversities in life; don't give up so easily. The power is within you to make it or break it. The choices we make everyday, the efforts we put in and the passion we live by, all play a role in sustaining our energy to charge through wall after wall of adversities that 'bestowed' upon us.
Adversities are what we create for ourselves consciously or not and at the same time they are what help us build our "adversity immune system" (AIS) of life. In every adversity lies wisdom and the "AIS energy charger". What perspective we hold when adversity hits determines our success or failure in overcoming it.
What is your perspective when you're hit with adversity?
Is it "I am a champion" or "I am a failure" mentality?
Are you letting other people's beliefs to overpower your will to succeed?
When there is a will, there is a way as the saying goes.
Is it "I am a champion" or "I am a failure" mentality?
Are you letting other people's beliefs to overpower your will to succeed?
When there is a will, there is a way as the saying goes.
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: awake
The same goes for our physical mind and soul - mind, body and soul as well as for relationships between people. Everything that we do to ourselves and others has its rewards and price to pay. The question is - Do you want to pay a hefty price or reap more rewards from the actions you take and choices you make? You decide!
Are your actions preserving goodness or destroying goodness in your life?
What are you doing to preserve all the goodness you have reap from your right actions?
What are you doing to resolve/mend what you have destroyed through your careless/insensitive actions?
What are you doing to preserve all the goodness you have reap from your right actions?
What are you doing to resolve/mend what you have destroyed through your careless/insensitive actions?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood:
dorky
This movie is definitely one that I quite like for its story line. A slight tear jerking movie for the "sensitive" hearts.
I like the fact that this movie covers quite a few elements of a relationship - individual or partnership. Viewers would most definitely have something they can relate to and/or reflect from the situations portrayed in this movie.
Not every situation ends in a 'happy forever after" fairy tale. It is a mix bag with a good balance of reality in people's lives.
One thing definitely is true - both genders do go through the same 'roller coaster' rides at some point of their lives. The humanly instincts to connect and fight for what they each want for their lives and what is true and authentic for their lives when they decide to do so.
There will come a point in time in our lives that one or few 'special angel/s' in our lives will come into our lives and shake our world till kingdom come that awake us to be true to ourselves and our needs.
My second movie was BOLT.
Another interesting yet funny animation. This portrays a dog that had been blinded by a "made-up" world that he had lost his identity as a real dog. He wasn't awaken to the truth till he was accidentally shipped away and met a cat along the way that woke him up to the real truth of his "world".
There are some of us if not many out there in this world that are like that dog in the animation. We live in the world that was "made up" for us by family, culture and society where we believed to be true of our world and what made us who we are supposed to be. Until we put ourselves in what is REAL of our REAL world that make us who we are and what we are supposed to be authentically and not "expected" by popular belief; we are not TRUE to our BEING. Our AUTHENTIC being.
How TRUE are you to yourself and your needs?
How LOST are you of yourself and your needs?
WHAT is your AUTHENTIC being?
What makes your AUTHENTIC WORLD that is TRUE to your being?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: cheerful
"When you choose to see only negativity, your world is filled with gloom and against you; When you choose to see beauty, your world becomes a better place to live in with abundance of opportunities for wisdom, peace, joy and love."
"Calmness of the mind helps our mind expand - creating more 'brainy cells' to work the problems out!"
"It's NEVER too late to learn something new; it's just a matter of IF you want and DARE to learn 'that something new' - get out of your "I FEAR" zone to 'YES, I CAN and WILL!' - the choice is yours."
"Don't lose sight of YOUR world that is harmonious within that creates wholeness and harmony within you."
"Connect from the core of your being - that very part that connects openly and freely with another being."
"I am not afraid to lose sight of you; I am not afraid to lose you; I am not afraid to lose my way - I KNOW I will find my way back to my heavenly path, for my path awaits me to discover it and reconnect with it."
"As long as we keep trying with our head held up high; we will be a part of the "lucky exceptions" that progress to excel."
"Everyone that someone encounters play a role in the 'inspiration or crushing effect' of one's dreams and hopes."
"Positive Determination is the key to progress and success."
"Progress comes from taking the first step and the next and the next till you get to your 'destination' and learning to enjoy the beauty that comes to you along the way, too in spite of all the adversities along the way."
"Nature is divine, the sounds of nature is divine - connect with mother nature more often - the energy it gives is divine."
"Never underestimate the power of words. Words can create doubt, trust and illusion. Words relayed can move you, destroy you or compliment you. Speak wisely yet authentically. Never underestimate the power of words."
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: amused
How do we judge? Being aware of your own capabilities and of others are important factors to help us understand better if our expectations are realistic or not and whether they are achievable or not. We mustn't confuse with instances where we have the ability to do something but not doing it because of fear.
Having high expectations is not wrong; it motivates us to become better and the best we can be however we also need to be real and stay real at all times and make sure that we're not holding on to unrealistic expectations that harm us more than doing any good for us and of others.
Expectations open doors to personal growth however unrealistic expectations open doors to despair, conflict or disappointments if we can't be truthful about them and make the necessary changes in our lives to create more realistic expectations of ourselves and others.
Are you holding on to REALISTIC or UNREALISTIC expectations?
Are you aware of what is and not?
WHAT are you doing to CREATE the CHANGE?
Are you living with realistic expectations?
WHAT are you doing to STAY AWARE?
- Mood:
good
Ain't that a bliss when that happens?
WHAT are you doing to fill your SMILE BANK?
HOW can you keep the SMILES you have accumulated in your bank for you to withdraw whenever you so wish to put a BIG smile back on your face?
HOW can you keep the SMILES you have accumulated in your bank for you to withdraw whenever you so wish to put a BIG smile back on your face?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: artistic
Do we see people around us as 'preys and predators' or both in our lives? Whether you are someone who is looking for a weakling to bully, a fling, a partner to have a relationship with or even a salesperson trying to get clients to name a few; that statement does ring a bell doesn't it? At some point of our lives, our animal instincts were alive or still are at this moment - how were we connecting or did we connect with other people and ourselves?
Bryan Bayer stated:
"You will *NEVER* be fulfilled by something OUTSIDE of yourself.
In other words, until you can truly enjoy exactly what's going on, INDEPENDENT of external circumstances, then your fulfillment is EXTERNALLY DEFINED."
"By "Appreciation", we mean embracing, accepting, and being a "yes" to whatever it is we're experiencing.
Yes... even if it's sadness, anger, joy, fear, doubt, excitement, turn on or frustration.
Without full and complete Appreciation for where you are at
and who you are with,
in every given moment,
to some degree,
YOU are SUFFERING."
The statement above was highlighted in the newsletter which I find to be a powerful awareness to gain in reaching inner fulfillment that radiates from the inside that people can really feel the 'aura', the 'energy' that emits from you - the GLOW! When we are 'glowing'; we attract 'beings' and we act as the beacon that leads the path in darkness.
We so often have the tendency to think that 'outer influences' will make us whole - how true is that? Some might think having a lot of money will surely make them happy - not necessarily. Money would make you happy on the ego level; how about the soul level? Will it satisfy your soul too with a lot of money? That doesn't apply to everyone; does it?
WHAT makes you WHOLE internally?
Do you have the slightest clue? How aware are you?
WHAT are you DOING everyday to FEED your WHOLENESS within?
Are you feeding with the right 'nutrients'? If you're still feeling 'empty' within after getting what you 'THOUGHT' would make the difference - THEN THINK AGAIN! You probably have not fed with the right 'nutrients'.
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.
- Mood: amused
To be successful in maintaining a healthy relationship; we have to work as a team. It is not a one man/woman show. In every aspect of the relationship; team spirit has to be present to reach the balance you each want for the relationship. Both have to be clear with their goal/s of their "partnership" and remembering each second what their goals are. Some goals remain for life and others may change through time. The changes have to be made clear to each other whenever it expires. No waiting! It has to be dealt with when it no longer serves its purpose. Making sure both are on the same page is important to maintain the balance.
We are beings that constantly are evolving. Periodic reality checks be it weekly, monthly or yearly - whatever that works for both partners - are crucial in making sure that we are up to date on what works and what don't; what are some challenged areas that need attention or any changes since the last reality check so we each can adjust accordingly to reach the balance needed for the relationship to make each other feel special, appreciated, loved and so forth. Again making sure each of us are on the same page and getting what we need from our partner and vice versa.
To maintain the harmony in the relationship; communication is at the top of the hierarchy. This is one area where most of us are not paying enough attention to where we are not really "communicating to connect" with each other. We might let things slide, or we ignore the severity of a particular issue when in reality the alarm has been ringing loudly and the list goes on. From that, conflicts arise and the "disconnection" gap broadens. When that gap is not dealt with soon enough and with the right tools to mend it; that gap will just get broader and broader till you fall so deeply to the dungeon of no return.
Are you both committed to the same goals?
What are you doing to stay committed?
Are you working this "project" alone mostly or as a team?
What are you doing to make sure you're both on the same page?
Are you both praising and giving constructive feedback to each other in the manner that connects both of you?
How often do you praise each other?
Are you communicating to CONNECT?
How are you communicating?
Are you building a solid bridge to walk on or are you destroying it?
What are you doing to make sure you always have the solid foundation in your relationship?
Copyright 2009 Jade Goh All rights reserved.What are you doing to stay committed?
Are you working this "project" alone mostly or as a team?
What are you doing to make sure you're both on the same page?
Are you both praising and giving constructive feedback to each other in the manner that connects both of you?
How often do you praise each other?
Are you communicating to CONNECT?
How are you communicating?
Are you building a solid bridge to walk on or are you destroying it?
What are you doing to make sure you always have the solid foundation in your relationship?
- Mood:
peaceful
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